Yesterday, I played mediator for my two very good IE pals of 6yrs.
At the ripe old age of near 30s, I think few would bother to really sit down and seriously talk about friendship. Many empowered, independent-minded (young) adults, with a healthy dose of self-assuredness and ego, would have reminded themselves that people change over time, be it their expectations, priorities, mannerisms, outlook, and maybe even values.. Being pragmatic fellas, well-exposed to the runs of life and workplace, one may no longer cry much over friendships that fizzled and chemistry that un-sizzled..
But yesterday, the two of them spent 3 serious hrs rationalizing individual frustrations and trying to realign once more. Good thing no violence was involved and the Paulaner glass bottles remained intact.
No clear-cut conclusion, and it remains to be seen if follow-up actions taken by both parties would cause greater divergence or otherwise. And I, being an equally pragmatic fella, while upset by the disintegration of threesome buddyhood, would have to move on to separately nurture the two-some buddyhood(s).. if such a day arrives.
3 comments:
I'm gonna hijack your post with the following:
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
P/S: Actually, I've never understood that last sentence. Tee hee...
Thanks, fish pal, for the pearls of wisedom. Yeah, I think all 3 of us (and others who happen to read this) understood and had articulated that (tho not necc in the way you had so eloquently done) during our various conversations. More often than not, we know when to let go of friendships... but perhaps the same is harder to be said of relationships. Hope the sun is shining bright at ur end. See you in a while.
oh paiseh, i didn't write this... got it as an email forward from a handful of people over the years. it was attributed to George Carlin.
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